Food for Thought

I had a little discussion yesterday with issues of the matured, which makes me ponder and question the origin of the fault.

The issues were:

• Premarital Sex
• Self inflict Pleasure aka "Masturbation"
• Usage of vulgarities

Premarital Sex
Since from man's earliest times as far as I can remember, everyone has disagreed with this issue. It is shameful to do so and from chinese movies, when they find a couple who is not lawfully married, they put them in to pig cages and drown them. People also say it is against religion.

Now the question I posted to myself is, who determines that they are not married? Who sets marriage as the marker of Love? Who deems that these are shameful sins?

I am not implying that casual premarital sex is correct. Sexual intercourse, the term itself is a very intimate phrase and I think it should be shared just two person.

From my knowledge, biologically; having sex is so that you can reproduce, like what happens in the animal world. Emotionally; it is a marker implying you really love the other party and wishes to have offsprings with that partner.

So what makes it so shameful? My view, it is us, humans who deem it this way. Marriage is a unison of two person and that people wants to recognized this unison of the couple, thus the big event that follows up. Then again, marriage is a unison of two person, why would people want to forcefully instill any other thoughts onto them? If these two person wants to commit their relationship to a higher level of intimacy, why can't they?

Self inflict Pleasure
I must admire those guys who say that they do not do this because I personally am not able to put that statement into my verbal log book. Then I would like to ask them, when is the last time you entertained a lustful thought? I am so curious to find out.

I like the idea of this statement that I picked out from my conversation with bus driver. "If a man is not attracted to girls and keeps looking for them, how would there be couples? If a man is not horny, how would there be children to carry on the line?" Although both the statement is not quite true now, because both gender now are quite on the same par now. But the statement stays true to both genders.

It seems to me that it is genetically engineered to our bodies, that we are sexually attracted to opposite genders, less some cases. I am not able to vouch this for the feminine gender but I am quite certain about the masculine gender.

I once had a friend who shared with me the reason for why the red light district will never be close down. The reason is simple, if you close down the red light district, rape cases would go up which results into more crime. Therefore, human sex trade will always be legal due to this cause. Well, this would means many casual premarital sex going on.

Then it comes to my point, then self inflict pleasure will cut down much casual premarital sex. And that when you break your thresh hold of tolerance, you at least have a way to relieve yourself, rather than doing wrong things.

So now, which one is better?

Usage of Vulgarities
I would say this is a social language. It is a language whereby it allows you to relieve your stress verbally. It is almost similar to screaming your hearts off at the beach, but of course you do not start and end a sentence with these language all the time.

Those vulgarities that we hear often meant swearing or abusive meaning. Often enough it also meant things of great intimacy, like the "F" word. So thinking deeper, it just meant statements of reprimand but just in the uncouth way. Now, besides being uncouth, what is wrong with the statements?

Then it comes back again, who thinks that these statements are actually wrong to use? Humans again.

I remember hearing this from my psychology class, when you see someone who acts differently from other, you will deem this person crazy. But actually fact is that they just think different. it becomes a social psychology issue.

Ending off by side tracking, the "F" word, "mythically" it meant "Fornication Under the Courtesy of the King". Reason why I say mythically is because there is no solid proof on this saying but it is a good information to think about.

Back in times where by we have kings and queens, to have population control, the people have to ask permission from the King before they perform sexual intercourse. So upon the approval, they will hang the sign with the "F" word before their door while they are at it. And that is the origin of that word.

Interesting huh? It is up to you to believe.